The other day I wrote about Louise, my friend who was physically hurt by her husband. I´m sad to let you all know that Louise went back with her husband. I know that its her decision and I have no right to judge her or tell her what to do but I´m sadden to know how things turned out.
Our friendship was ruined after her beating. We no longer speak like we used to. I ran into her the other day and felt to emotionally far from this person whom I´ve known like a sister, I got some courage last night and spoke to her, she claims things are ok and that her going back with him has nothing to do with us not talking all of a sudden. That ¨she´s being busy...¨
Even if we dont stay as close as we were at least I know deep in my heart that I told her and did what was right, if there is one thing I refuse to stay quiet to is a woman being abuse by a man...
Stay pretty my friends!
Aidé
November 22, 2011
November 19, 2011
When someone dies...
Sometimes I fail to see that life is precious, that it passes by so quickly, that we pursue so many riches that most of the time we forget the real stuff that makes us happy...
This week someone that I knew since I was a little girl died. She was always a happy woman, joyful, truthful, wise...She past away at an advance age and reminded me so much of my grandmother who passed back in 1993.
Seeing the pain that her children (now older women) are in, how lost they look, how big that hole that a loved one leaves just makes want to cry...I know we all say that the death of a closed one in the family its a real eye opener but this time was different, it was more than a simple eye opener, it was so powerfull I cant simply describe it with words.
She was very loved by all of us and she will be remembered with love...Rest in Peace Mita...
Aidé
This week someone that I knew since I was a little girl died. She was always a happy woman, joyful, truthful, wise...She past away at an advance age and reminded me so much of my grandmother who passed back in 1993.
Seeing the pain that her children (now older women) are in, how lost they look, how big that hole that a loved one leaves just makes want to cry...I know we all say that the death of a closed one in the family its a real eye opener but this time was different, it was more than a simple eye opener, it was so powerfull I cant simply describe it with words.
She was very loved by all of us and she will be remembered with love...Rest in Peace Mita...
Aidé
November 07, 2011
We don´t all take a shower daily... or do we?
As I came home today I suddently felt this need to shower. I had been out on the dirt all day at work, it was later than usual and I was exausted.
I hop in the shower and started thinking over the excuses we sometimes give each other or our friends when we realized how tired we are we decided to ¨skip¨ the usual bath time routine...
I remembered ealier today a co-worker was telling me how she got home tired and ¨since I took a shower that morning¨ decided to skip the shower that night, and how I told a story once of how I went to this Province named Contanza and it was really cold with no heater and i skip the shower for 2 days ¨because it was too cold¨, It just came all together...Why do we make up excuses when we simply decided NOT to shower?
I hop in the shower and started thinking over the excuses we sometimes give each other or our friends when we realized how tired we are we decided to ¨skip¨ the usual bath time routine...
I remembered ealier today a co-worker was telling me how she got home tired and ¨since I took a shower that morning¨ decided to skip the shower that night, and how I told a story once of how I went to this Province named Contanza and it was really cold with no heater and i skip the shower for 2 days ¨because it was too cold¨, It just came all together...Why do we make up excuses when we simply decided NOT to shower?
Aidé
Have you shared a smile today?
November 01, 2011
the things a woman goes thru...
I´ve been debating since last Sunday if I should write this post or not. My inner self is screaming at me ¨go ahead this needs to get out there¨ but at the same time I need to respect the privacy of my dear friend who in this story will be called Louise.
I´ve known Louise for so many years now that I´ve lost count. She is one the most sweet people I know. She is never mean, rude, inpolite, nasty or anything else that I could turn into at times when folks get on my nerves. Louise married her first love, the fairytale guy that we all dream about. Well fast forward and the years went by, they had children and life was not all she planned but what the heck they had each other she tought and to her married was a thing for ever...until death do us apart type of thing.
We will call Louise husband Charlie. Charlie decided that he no longer wanted to be with Louise, he needed his freedom, he was tired of it all. The same day Charlie dumped Louise she went out with a couple of friends, she was enjoying herself.
Charlie showep up and decided to beat her up!...for the heck of it... because he felt like it!
I´m sure that we all know someone who is being physically or verbally or emotionally abuse by their partner...we tend to stand around and not say anything because of fear, we might not to get involved in someone elses life or we might even think that the gal will eventually end up going back to that relationship... which happens a lot.
But let me tell you, there is nothing like seem your friend get hurt because some sorry ass guy decided that she deserved a beattin...
Charlie was in jail, he is free now (bail was paid), Louise is hurt, she claims she will never go back...the children are safe, life keeps going...and here i am praying that Louise opens her eyes before she becomes another statistic...
So go ahead and speak up, go ahead and get your nose in someone elses life because if you do stay quiet your friend might soon died...
I´ve known Louise for so many years now that I´ve lost count. She is one the most sweet people I know. She is never mean, rude, inpolite, nasty or anything else that I could turn into at times when folks get on my nerves. Louise married her first love, the fairytale guy that we all dream about. Well fast forward and the years went by, they had children and life was not all she planned but what the heck they had each other she tought and to her married was a thing for ever...until death do us apart type of thing.
We will call Louise husband Charlie. Charlie decided that he no longer wanted to be with Louise, he needed his freedom, he was tired of it all. The same day Charlie dumped Louise she went out with a couple of friends, she was enjoying herself.
Charlie showep up and decided to beat her up!...for the heck of it... because he felt like it!
I´m sure that we all know someone who is being physically or verbally or emotionally abuse by their partner...we tend to stand around and not say anything because of fear, we might not to get involved in someone elses life or we might even think that the gal will eventually end up going back to that relationship... which happens a lot.
But let me tell you, there is nothing like seem your friend get hurt because some sorry ass guy decided that she deserved a beattin...
Charlie was in jail, he is free now (bail was paid), Louise is hurt, she claims she will never go back...the children are safe, life keeps going...and here i am praying that Louise opens her eyes before she becomes another statistic...
So go ahead and speak up, go ahead and get your nose in someone elses life because if you do stay quiet your friend might soon died...
Aidé
Have you shared a smile today?
October 25, 2011
moody me
Lately I havent felt like myself at all. I´ve been moody, crancky, thinking too much about past decisions and I even shed a tear today...
It´s funny how sometimes you realized that you have been unadvisily swamp by feelings that you werent awared you had. Feelings of emptiness, of impotence, of needing to do something definite, drastic.
I had that feeling today. Shared it with someone who I never in a million years would think will understand me. And came to realized that if anyone understood me was her.
She has been hiding in the silence, quiet, sumisive for so many years. She has been there thru thick and thin, on the high and on the lows, she stands straight well all else passes...
It´s funny how sometimes you realized that you have been unadvisily swamp by feelings that you werent awared you had. Feelings of emptiness, of impotence, of needing to do something definite, drastic.
I had that feeling today. Shared it with someone who I never in a million years would think will understand me. And came to realized that if anyone understood me was her.
She has been hiding in the silence, quiet, sumisive for so many years. She has been there thru thick and thin, on the high and on the lows, she stands straight well all else passes...
October 24, 2011
the ¨new¨ me at 30
Yeay!!! I´m thirty!
I have to honest and admit that I thought it would be harder to hit 30, as if I was going to change how I felt or who I was, as if that would feel like one of those life changing experiences in which you undergo some sort of transe and when you come back to your body you are no longer the you from before...
Does it makes sense? Perphaps it doesnt but that is how I felt.
Today I see that how I felt was not real. I´m still my crazy old self just a year older and wiser. I still get to change my hair color often, I still get tongue tied at times, I still love my family and friends as much as I did when I was 29, I still have strong opinions and values that no one will change, I´m still me!
I have to honest and admit that I thought it would be harder to hit 30, as if I was going to change how I felt or who I was, as if that would feel like one of those life changing experiences in which you undergo some sort of transe and when you come back to your body you are no longer the you from before...
Does it makes sense? Perphaps it doesnt but that is how I felt.
Today I see that how I felt was not real. I´m still my crazy old self just a year older and wiser. I still get to change my hair color often, I still get tongue tied at times, I still love my family and friends as much as I did when I was 29, I still have strong opinions and values that no one will change, I´m still me!
October 20, 2011
So excited today I could scream !!!
Today I feel like a real writer. I´m sure you have encounter a situation in which you do something but practically noone knows about it and therefore you dont feel like you do that thing that you know that you do (I know confusing!)
Well that it how it felt all the years that I´ve been writing and noone knew I was a writer. I will do my blog posts and no comments, no one read it, nothing.... It truly just felt like I was just a writer to myself!
Well along came Emily from Nap Time is My Time to the rescue! She has been so kind to have me as a guest blogger over at her blog. She featured my blog and post and I could not be any happier!!!!
I´m overwhelmed by this ¨Now I feel like I´m a real writer¨ feeling. I feel like I could scream it to the world (dont know if they will listen thought) but I feel like I´m not just a writer wanna be...I´m a writer!
You could find the post here!
Thank you Emily for the Opportunity...You have NO idea what it means to me.
ps: I will love to visit Texas one day!
Well that it how it felt all the years that I´ve been writing and noone knew I was a writer. I will do my blog posts and no comments, no one read it, nothing.... It truly just felt like I was just a writer to myself!
Well along came Emily from Nap Time is My Time to the rescue! She has been so kind to have me as a guest blogger over at her blog. She featured my blog and post and I could not be any happier!!!!
I´m overwhelmed by this ¨Now I feel like I´m a real writer¨ feeling. I feel like I could scream it to the world (dont know if they will listen thought) but I feel like I´m not just a writer wanna be...I´m a writer!
You could find the post here!
Thank you Emily for the Opportunity...You have NO idea what it means to me.
ps: I will love to visit Texas one day!
Aidé
Have you shared a smile today?
October 18, 2011
the most beautiful woman in the whole wide world
This woman has shown me everything I know and so much more that will take more than an post...and here she is... My amaizing mother, Happy Birthday!
September 20, 2011
Update on weight loss...
Well have to admit that I have not taken weight loss as serious as I tought until this past week. I havent loss any weight yet but I started hitting the gym in a more serious note (by that I mean everyday).
I know this is not much to say but to me its a huge step (a really big one), going from not doing anything to actually getting up and doing something (mind you i go to the gym at 9 at NIGHT!) its a lot...
well that its all for now folks, wish me luck and stay tune!!!
I know this is not much to say but to me its a huge step (a really big one), going from not doing anything to actually getting up and doing something (mind you i go to the gym at 9 at NIGHT!) its a lot...
well that its all for now folks, wish me luck and stay tune!!!
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free!
September 13, 2011
Weight loss here I come...
So i´ve decided to follow a fellow blogger who is determined to lose some weight before she is 30 years old. Believe it or not I will soon be 30... I know its awesome! (no not really), and I want to get rid of some weight that i have been packing for a while now.
I found this blog called Escape from Obesity and they have this Habit a week program where you let go of one bad habit at the time. The first week is about increasing your water intake. As we all know most of us dont drink the amount of water that our body needs in a daily basis.
So gather up your water bottle, put away the juices and sodas (and other junk we often drink) and join me as i give my life a 180 turn!
I found this blog called Escape from Obesity and they have this Habit a week program where you let go of one bad habit at the time. The first week is about increasing your water intake. As we all know most of us dont drink the amount of water that our body needs in a daily basis.
So gather up your water bottle, put away the juices and sodas (and other junk we often drink) and join me as i give my life a 180 turn!
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free!
September 02, 2011
It´s Childhood Cancer month...most of us don´t even know
Today I read a post from Manic Mother Photography that broke my heart. The owner of this blog (sorry I don’t know her name) has a child with Leukemia, his name is Ezra. He seems to be a gracious and vivacious child who was diagnosed at an early age. I don’t know these folks but her story touched me.
I´m a mother and to read her words of how she wishes she could help her son get better, make the needles stop and the tears go away but she can’t. You could read her story here.
It reminded me of Angel. She is the niece of a woman to whom I´m very grateful to. Because she thought me so much, she was my supervisor, a friend and my mentor. I learned from her even when I wasn’t around her. Angel is a 7 year old who was diagnosed with a brain tumor in 2010. Angel is a warrior, she´s very blessed.
I wanted to share her story for 2 reasons:
1) I´m a mother, couldn’t even imaging if something of this magnitude were to ever happen to any of my children. It´s hard for me as a daughter to see my mom undergo medical issues, it will be devastating to see my young child go thru something like this. For that I have to say ¨hat´s off to Myra and Alan (Angel´s parents) plus the whole family. You guys are such a tight and united family. You have prayed so hard but also have done EVERYTHING you could to make sure your little girl is care for. And you have given her all the support and love that she needed back then and she needs now to believe that this will soon be over, that God will cure her and continue to bless her as he has so far.
2) To ask for your donations. Since his Childhood Cancer month, since maybe Angel would soon need surgery again (let´s pray she doesn´t), if any time this would be the best time to do so.
You could read Angel story here at Caring Bridge (hope the family doesn´t mind me sharing this).
You would see the Donate now link on the right hand side of the page.
Please help, do something because every little bit helps. Give & Pray, get your hands busy these little Angel´s need us...
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free! August 30, 2011
Day 29, my support system!
It might sound repetitive but God is my number one support, he never leaves my side even when I´m moody.
My mom comes right after because she is there for me no matter what. I have been up high and down low and she is ALWAYS there. When I was in my teen years she told me that a mother is the only person that would always be there, that friends come and go but your mom rarely leaves your side.
And if those words would had been the winning lotery numbers I would be a millionaire today!
My husband believe it or not is always there for me, even when times are rough and we might even be mad at each other he listens to my crazy ideas, contributes to my crazy ideas and helps me make my crazy dreams come true! I´ve got a bunch of friends (and you know who you are because I call you at all times of the day) who help me make it throw scratch free...
My mom comes right after because she is there for me no matter what. I have been up high and down low and she is ALWAYS there. When I was in my teen years she told me that a mother is the only person that would always be there, that friends come and go but your mom rarely leaves your side.
And if those words would had been the winning lotery numbers I would be a millionaire today!
My husband believe it or not is always there for me, even when times are rough and we might even be mad at each other he listens to my crazy ideas, contributes to my crazy ideas and helps me make my crazy dreams come true! I´ve got a bunch of friends (and you know who you are because I call you at all times of the day) who help me make it throw scratch free...
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free! August 29, 2011
Day 28th, What is in my Bag?
Uhm Good question?! My I-touch, my glasses, a daily pad (Yes, I did said pad, and I´m well aware that we women dont even mention that, but hey this is the 21th century), my laptop, phones, a hair clippy, pen, pencil, wallet, coin purse, a book that I almost dont get time to read and some candy that I steal from my kids. From time to time I carry wipes and diapers plus junk food...I know nothing interesting!
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free!
Wow that is what I call commitment!
I came across this post today from a blogger I started to follow because she is on her way to losing weight and I admire her because she´s actually doing it!
I have said I´m going to do it but never actually DO something, i never get to the gym or wake up early to exersise, dont do yoga or use any of the equipment I´ve accumulated throught the years. I just let time pass me by... she´s actually inspired me to do something. She did this 48 hours fasting for people who are homeless, without food, the ones that at this time (3:00 pm) have not had their first meal.
Here is her post, hope you read it, and I´ve decided to hit the gym today! I will no longer be still, I will be proactive. Be ready, watch my wings spread...
http://missapril-30before30.blogspot.com/2011/08/46-hours-of-fasting-down-2-to-go.html
I have said I´m going to do it but never actually DO something, i never get to the gym or wake up early to exersise, dont do yoga or use any of the equipment I´ve accumulated throught the years. I just let time pass me by... she´s actually inspired me to do something. She did this 48 hours fasting for people who are homeless, without food, the ones that at this time (3:00 pm) have not had their first meal.
Here is her post, hope you read it, and I´ve decided to hit the gym today! I will no longer be still, I will be proactive. Be ready, watch my wings spread...
http://missapril-30before30.blogspot.com/2011/08/46-hours-of-fasting-down-2-to-go.html
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free!
August 28, 2011
Day 27 my worst Habit, uhm...
It´s without a doubt organizing but it´s not you think. I have to have things in place or my life goes downhill. My whole day and mood depend on it. My desk has to be an organized mess, same with the home. If I get home and things are out of place I get all cranky for no reason and start cleaning\organizing. I´ve had days in which i use my lunch break to organized instead of eating!
I dislike when folks start moving my stuff around whether at home or at work. And hate with a passion whenever folks live things OUT OF PLACE. Why must you not put them back were you found them???
So there you have it, not sure if its a dislike post or a worst habit...
I dislike when folks start moving my stuff around whether at home or at work. And hate with a passion whenever folks live things OUT OF PLACE. Why must you not put them back were you found them???
So there you have it, not sure if its a dislike post or a worst habit...
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free!
August 27, 2011
30 Days about me, Favorite store
My favorite store...I would choose the ones I like the most because if I start listing all the store I like this post would not have an end.
I love shopping at Old Navy for me, ¨the¨ best jeans ever, they just hug my curves!
Childrens place is the best spot for kids clothes, they are a bit pricey but those clothes could with stand my little Monsters (and that is a lot! trust me).
Kohls, what can I say I love everything in there! and Nike, love them sneakers...
There, my top favorites!
I love shopping at Old Navy for me, ¨the¨ best jeans ever, they just hug my curves!
Childrens place is the best spot for kids clothes, they are a bit pricey but those clothes could with stand my little Monsters (and that is a lot! trust me).
Kohls, what can I say I love everything in there! and Nike, love them sneakers...
There, my top favorites!
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free!
August 26, 2011
My mom raised 4 kids as a single mother who has worked really hard at whatever job she has had to do to bring food to our table (decent jobs of course), from doing other´s laundry to selling toys off the side walk for Christmas. Whatever was needed. Today we are all grown folks, professionals in different areas, holding stady jobs or owing a business (my bother Mayo). We might not be ¨the¨best folks to deal with but we are honest ones who try to do some sort of good.
My sister she inspires me daily because everyday she has a different battle and she is brave enough to face it HEAD on instead of running and hiding (which is what I would do). She embraces her troubles and comes out victorious! (do not ask me the details, all I know is that the Lord is her guide).
Ok ready to move on to the friends:
My girls: Irene, Amber & Sylvia
We have been thru so much, we have cried together, laugh together (peed together, lol) been to places, mess with other people and so much more than I could reveal!
I thank you all for ALL you have done for me, ALL you have with stand with me AND for me, for ALL i thank you!
Love you all!
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free!
August 24, 2011
Day 23, You tube Talk
I feel just like Emily from Nap time is My time i do not have a post for today.
I exclusively use You tube for music videos which i refuse paying got on Itunes and which i enjoy viewing every now and then. But i would not waste my time searching for things with little value to me...I would much rather search for interesting blogs or edit photos. Sorry folks but we are few in a bunch!
I exclusively use You tube for music videos which i refuse paying got on Itunes and which i enjoy viewing every now and then. But i would not waste my time searching for things with little value to me...I would much rather search for interesting blogs or edit photos. Sorry folks but we are few in a bunch!
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free! August 22, 2011
21 day about me...cooking
Okey, as I have stated before I hate cooking, dont like it not one bit.
Now that we have that clear, my mind is blanked the moment I try to think of a recipe. I´m gonna share my hubby´s rice and beans recipe called Gallo Pinto. This recipe is from Nicaragua and it´s very simple to make and really yummy.
It works best if you have white rice left over from the day before (meaning a day old). It has to be properly stored since its not supposed to have gone bad just last night rice would do. Grab a can of black beans, some onions, white cheese and a little bit of seasoning.
Stir fry the onions, add the beans and the seasoning just enough to give the beans some of your own flavor, pour some water in the can were the beans where, about half the can and pour it in the pan, after a few minutes, not too many minutes you dont want the mixture to dry up, add the rice and stirr until its all mix with the beans. Serve hot with some slices of cheese, yum!
Now that we have that clear, my mind is blanked the moment I try to think of a recipe. I´m gonna share my hubby´s rice and beans recipe called Gallo Pinto. This recipe is from Nicaragua and it´s very simple to make and really yummy.
It works best if you have white rice left over from the day before (meaning a day old). It has to be properly stored since its not supposed to have gone bad just last night rice would do. Grab a can of black beans, some onions, white cheese and a little bit of seasoning.
Stir fry the onions, add the beans and the seasoning just enough to give the beans some of your own flavor, pour some water in the can were the beans where, about half the can and pour it in the pan, after a few minutes, not too many minutes you dont want the mixture to dry up, add the rice and stirr until its all mix with the beans. Serve hot with some slices of cheese, yum!
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free!
August 20, 2011
Day 19 something I´m good at...
There is the obvious photography ( i dont claim being good at it, but i do claim loving it!). But besides that I´m good at story telling. I make up the craziest stories to my kids or any other kids that i know. My 8yr old loves stories and we had read all the books we had at home (age appropiate books, wink wink!) and i had a light buld moment and started to make up stories for her.
I told her about the most beautiful girl in the whole world who didnt like to eat (she is a picky eater) and her mom made her the most delicious food ever...but before she knew what mom had cooked she said ¨mommy i dont want to eat that!.¨ ¨Honey but you dont even know what I´m cooking, why dont you wait first and then say that you dont like it?¨the mom replied.
¨No I´m sure I wont like it! I´m very sure.¨ she said. ¨ Well you need to try it any way¨. When the girl tried to food she not only liked it she asks for seconds, uhm yummy. The mom told the girl that from that moment on she must first try things out before rejeting them. The girl agreed and she lived happily ever after... the end.
After this one I´ve made so many other ones always based on stuff that happens in our daily life, i still read to her but she likes my made up stories and whenever i´m really exhausted they save me from having to read...
ps: story protected by copyright laws, soon to be available in hardcover.
I told her about the most beautiful girl in the whole world who didnt like to eat (she is a picky eater) and her mom made her the most delicious food ever...but before she knew what mom had cooked she said ¨mommy i dont want to eat that!.¨ ¨Honey but you dont even know what I´m cooking, why dont you wait first and then say that you dont like it?¨the mom replied.
¨No I´m sure I wont like it! I´m very sure.¨ she said. ¨ Well you need to try it any way¨. When the girl tried to food she not only liked it she asks for seconds, uhm yummy. The mom told the girl that from that moment on she must first try things out before rejeting them. The girl agreed and she lived happily ever after... the end.
After this one I´ve made so many other ones always based on stuff that happens in our daily life, i still read to her but she likes my made up stories and whenever i´m really exhausted they save me from having to read...
Aide ;)
Smile… it´s free! ps: story protected by copyright laws, soon to be available in hardcover.
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