Touched by an Angel

Last night I had a brief but heated argument with my husband. Come to think about it, it was a rather stupid argument. He was trying to explain his point of view and I felt threaten by it.

I guess I was not fully understanding him. I went on with his petition and today I have to admit that he was right (and not that I hate admitting it or that I´m one of those sickos whom most always be right) its more of a "yeah, he was right and I´m glad he did what he did!".

My husband is not always right you know. He is not always joyful or understanding. He has a peculiar way of expressing himself and of doing things. And often he is right on the money. He´s one of those young folks who have a older spirit in them. If spirits did came back afterlife, I would dare to say that his spirit lived another life and reincarnated in this young amazing man whom I married.


I don't think he particularly likes me writing about him (specially since this blog is public) but I have to let you all know that although we struggle with the everyday issues that life arises I would not change anything that we´ve been thru (well maybe a few things) or who he is (well maybe a little, lol!) and that I could not have chosen a better person to spend the rest of my life (whoa, that sounds like a really long time) with...




My husband and our then 2 year old.

Stay smiling my friends!

Aidé

Guilt

It´s something that not many human beings experience, at least not often enough, and if they do they quickly try to put it to the side and forget they ever felt that way.

We often dont think our desicions thru before acting upon them........... it would be a much better world if we did.

Stay pretty my friends!

Aidé

touched...

I have to begin by saying that I´ve always known there is a God and known that he loves me and takes good care of me. Now I must say that last year I attended a wonderful church called the Refuge, my friend Crystal invited me, and my life took a bit of a turn.

I felt him closer, I felt blessed, better things than before where coming my way and I had this joy that took over me.

Its been over a year since then and I stopped attending the Refuge because well I moved to another country. I was invited a few weeks ago, by a very special person, to a service that a church was given over at someones house. It was late, it was Monday, I was tired, it had rained, the service was at a place not only had I never been there but it was a marginal place (it was dark, solitary, so deep in that if you screamed no one will hear you, you know the type of places that you go once you have God within you because he gives you the courage you don't have without him).

Despite that all, I went.

Boy, am I glad I did! I was touched by him on that night. I considered myself a believer, a christian, a good hearted person before that night. But that night was different, allow me to explain.

Sometimes you accept God as your savior but he hasn't "touched" you. He is there but not there. You´ve accepted him in your life but your life is still not complete. Something big is still missing.  "He" is still missing. That Monday he was there, he lifted me, he touched me, he embrace me, he took over me, he overwhelmed me. It was magical. It brings tears to my eyes just to think about it.
Its a feeling that words along cant explain. I´m a different person since that Monday. I have to admit I had my doubts and repressed a little all the feelings that overwhelmed me. But you see God works in mysterious ways. Friday of the same week came along and I was invited to another service, this time it was held at the church. I attended. As to prove that he is calling me to serve him, he touched me again. I cried like I had not cried in a very long time. I felt this joy, this over flowing of his love over me. It was so powerful.

Don't let the next words offend anyone (and I know that my sister will laugh out loud with this) but I had never, I repeat never ever evaa, even consider the remote idea of being a pentecostal (the reason why I liked the Refuge is because they are modern Pentecostals) but I know imaging myself like my sister (who has been a pentecostal for years) with skirts, and no make up, I know what you are thinking being pentecostal doesn't demand any of those things but you must understand that when you view something from the outside its not the same as when you enjoy it from within.

Allow me to close this very long post with saying, that now I could loudly and proudly say: the Lord has touched me, I´m not ashamed of saying it, yelling it, expressing it and do not care what the world thinks, what anyone thinks, don't care for what "I'm leaving behind" because what he had brought me its more valuable than anything else the world could offer...

I want to think this is what Moses felt when he was first called...and if it is Thank you Jesus for choosing me...


Aidé

a lost friendship... :(

The other day I wrote about Louise, my friend who was physically hurt by her husband. I´m sad to let you all know that Louise went back with her husband.  I know that its her decision and I have no right to judge her or tell her what to do but I´m sadden to know how things turned out.

Our friendship was ruined after her beating. We no longer speak like we used to. I ran into her the other day and felt to emotionally far from this person whom I´ve known like a sister, I got some courage last night and spoke to her, she claims things are ok and that her going back with him has nothing to do with us not talking all of a sudden. That ¨she´s being busy...¨


Even if we dont stay as close as we were at least I know deep in my heart that I told her and did what was right, if there is one thing I refuse to stay quiet to is a woman being abuse by a man...

Stay pretty my friends!

Aidé

When someone dies...

Sometimes I fail to see that life is precious, that it passes by so quickly, that we pursue so many riches that most of the time we forget the real stuff that makes us happy...

This week someone that I knew since I was a little girl died. She was always a happy woman, joyful, truthful, wise...She past away at an advance age and reminded me so much of my grandmother who passed back in 1993.

Seeing the pain that her children (now older women) are in, how lost they look, how big that hole that a loved one leaves just makes want to cry...I know we all say that the death of a closed one in the family its a real eye opener but this time was different, it was more than a simple eye opener, it was  so powerfull I cant simply describe it with words.

She was very loved by all of us and she will be remembered with love...Rest in Peace Mita...

Aidé

We don´t all take a shower daily... or do we?

As I came home today I suddently felt this need to shower. I had been out on the dirt all day at work, it was later than usual and I was exausted.

I hop in the shower and started thinking over the excuses we sometimes give each other or our friends when we realized how tired we are we decided to ¨skip¨ the usual bath time routine... 

I remembered ealier today a co-worker was telling me how she got home tired and ¨since I took a shower that morning¨ decided to skip the shower that night, and how I told a story once of how I went to this Province named Contanza and it was really cold with no heater and i skip the shower for 2 days ¨because it was too cold¨, It just came all together...Why do we make up excuses when we simply decided NOT to shower?

Aidé

Have you shared a smile today?

the things a woman goes thru...

I´ve been debating since last Sunday if I should write this post or not. My inner self is screaming at me ¨go ahead this needs to get out there¨ but at the same time I need to respect the privacy of my dear friend who in this story will be called Louise.

I´ve known Louise for so many years now that I´ve lost count. She is one the most sweet people I know. She is never mean, rude, inpolite, nasty or anything else that I could turn into at times when folks get on my nerves. Louise married her first love, the fairytale guy that we all dream about. Well fast forward and the years went by, they had children and life was not all she planned but what the heck they had each other she tought and to her married was a thing for ever...until death do us apart type of thing.

We will call Louise husband Charlie. Charlie decided that he no longer wanted to be with Louise, he needed his freedom, he was tired of it all. The same day Charlie dumped Louise she went out with a couple of friends, she was enjoying herself.

Charlie showep up and decided to beat her up!...for the heck of it... because he felt like it!

I´m sure that we all know someone who is being physically or verbally or emotionally abuse by their partner...we tend to stand around and not say anything because of fear, we might not to get involved in someone elses life or we might even think that the gal will eventually end up going back to that relationship... which happens a lot.

But let me tell you, there is nothing like seem your friend get hurt because some sorry ass guy decided that she deserved a beattin...

Charlie was in jail, he is free now (bail was paid), Louise is hurt, she claims she will never go back...the children are safe, life keeps going...and here i am praying that Louise opens her eyes before she becomes another statistic...

So go ahead and speak up, go ahead and get your nose in someone elses life because if you do stay quiet your friend might soon died...

Aidé

Have you shared a smile today?

moody me

Lately I havent felt like myself at all. I´ve been moody, crancky, thinking too much about past decisions and I even shed a tear today...

It´s funny how sometimes you realized that you have been unadvisily swamp by feelings that you werent awared you had. Feelings of emptiness, of impotence, of needing to do something definite, drastic.

I had that feeling today. Shared it with someone who I never in a million years would think will understand me. And came to realized that if anyone understood me was her.

She has been hiding in the silence, quiet, sumisive for so many years. She has been there thru thick and thin, on the high and on the lows, she stands straight well all else passes...

the ¨new¨ me at 30

Yeay!!! I´m thirty!

I have to honest and admit that I thought it would be harder to hit 30, as if I was going to change how I felt or who I was, as if that would feel like one of those life changing experiences in which you undergo some sort of transe and when you come back to your body you are no longer the you from before...

Does it makes sense? Perphaps it doesnt but that is how I felt.

Today I see that how I felt was not real. I´m still my crazy old self just a year older and wiser. I still get to change my hair color often, I still get tongue tied at times, I still love my family and friends as much as I did when I was 29, I still have strong opinions and values that no one will change, I´m still me!

So excited today I could scream !!!

Today I feel like a real writer. I´m sure you have encounter a situation in which you do something but practically noone knows about it and therefore you dont feel like you do that thing that you know that you do (I know confusing!)

Well that it how it felt all the years that I´ve been writing and noone knew I was a writer. I will do my blog posts and no comments, no one read it, nothing.... It truly just felt like I was just a writer to myself!

Well along came Emily from Nap Time is My Time to the rescue! She has been so kind to have me as a guest blogger over at her blog. She featured my blog and post and I could not be any happier!!!!

I´m overwhelmed by this ¨Now I feel like I´m a real writer¨ feeling. I feel like I could scream it to the world (dont know if they will listen thought) but I feel like I´m not just a writer wanna be...I´m a writer!

You could find the post here!

Thank you Emily for the Opportunity...You have NO idea what it means to me.

ps:  I will love to visit Texas one day!

Aidé

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the most beautiful woman in the whole wide world

This woman has shown me everything I know and so much more that will take more than an post...and here she is... My amaizing mother, Happy Birthday!

Update on weight loss...

Well have to admit that I have not taken weight loss as serious as I tought until this past week. I havent loss any weight yet but I started hitting the gym in a more serious note (by that I mean everyday).

I know this is not much to say but to me its a huge step (a really big one), going from not doing anything to actually getting up and doing something (mind you i go to the gym at 9 at NIGHT!) its a lot...

well that its all for now folks, wish me luck and stay tune!!!

Aide ;)

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Weight loss here I come...

So i´ve decided to follow a fellow blogger who is determined to lose some weight before she is 30 years old. Believe it or not I will soon be 30... I know its awesome! (no not really), and I want to get rid of some weight that i have been packing for a while now.

I found this blog called Escape from Obesity and they have this Habit a week program where you let go of one bad habit at the time. The first week is about increasing your water intake. As we all know most of us dont drink the amount of water that our body needs in a daily basis.

So gather up your water bottle, put away the juices and sodas (and other junk we often drink) and join me as i give my life a 180 turn!

Aide ;)

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It´s Childhood Cancer month...most of us don´t even know

Today I read a post from Manic Mother Photography that broke my heart. The owner of this blog (sorry I don’t know her name) has a child with Leukemia, his name is Ezra. He seems to be a gracious and vivacious child who was diagnosed at an early age. I don’t know these folks but her story touched me.

 I´m a mother and to read her words of how she wishes she could help her son get better, make the needles stop and the tears go away but she can’t. You could read her story here.

It reminded me of Angel. She is the niece of a woman to whom I´m very grateful to. Because she thought me so much, she was my supervisor, a friend and my mentor. I learned from her even when I wasn’t around her. Angel is a 7 year old who was diagnosed with a brain tumor in 2010. Angel is a warrior, she´s very blessed.

I wanted to share her story for 2 reasons:

1) I´m a mother, couldn’t even imaging if something of this magnitude were to ever happen to any of my children. It´s hard for me as a daughter to see my mom undergo medical issues, it will be devastating to see my young child go thru something like this. For that I have to say ¨hat´s off to Myra and Alan (Angel´s parents) plus the whole family. You guys are such a tight and united family. You have prayed so hard but also have done EVERYTHING you could to make sure your little girl is care for. And you have given her all the support and love that she needed back then and she needs now to believe that this will soon be over, that God will cure her and continue to bless her as he has so far.

2) To ask for your donations. Since his Childhood Cancer month, since maybe Angel would soon need surgery again (let´s pray she doesn´t), if any time this would be the best time to do so.

You could read Angel story here at Caring Bridge (hope the family doesn´t mind me sharing this).

You would see the Donate now link on the right hand side of the page.

Please help, do something because every little bit helps. Give & Pray, get your hands busy these little Angel´s need us...

Aide ;)

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Day 29, my support system!

It might sound repetitive but God is my number one support, he never leaves my side even when I´m moody.

My mom comes right after because she is there for me no matter what. I have been up high and down low and she is ALWAYS there. When I was in my teen years she told me that a mother is the only person that would always be there, that friends come and go but your mom rarely leaves your side.
And if those words would had been the winning lotery numbers I would be a millionaire today!

My husband believe it or not is always there for me, even when times are rough and we might even be mad at each other he listens to my crazy ideas, contributes to my crazy ideas and helps me make my crazy dreams come true! I´ve got a bunch of friends (and you know who you are because I call you at all times of the day) who help me make it throw scratch free...

Aide ;)

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Day 28th, What is in my Bag?

Uhm Good question?! My I-touch, my glasses, a daily pad (Yes, I  did said pad, and I´m well aware that we women dont even mention that, but hey this is the 21th century), my laptop, phones, a hair clippy, pen, pencil, wallet, coin purse, a book that I almost dont get time to read and some candy that I steal from my kids. From time to time I carry wipes and diapers plus junk food...I know nothing interesting!

Aide ;)

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Wow that is what I call commitment!

I came across this post today from a blogger I started to follow because she is on her way to losing weight and I admire her because she´s actually doing it!

I have said I´m going to do it but never actually DO  something, i never get to the gym or wake up early to exersise, dont do yoga or use any of the equipment I´ve accumulated throught the years. I just let time pass me by... she´s actually inspired me to do something. She did this 48 hours fasting for people who are homeless, without food, the ones that at this time (3:00 pm) have not had their first meal.

Here is her post, hope you read it, and I´ve decided to hit the gym today! I will no longer be still, I will be proactive. Be ready, watch my wings spread...

http://missapril-30before30.blogspot.com/2011/08/46-hours-of-fasting-down-2-to-go.html

Aide ;)

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Day 27 my worst Habit, uhm...

It´s without a doubt organizing but it´s not you think. I have to have things in place or my life goes downhill. My whole day and mood depend on it. My desk has to be an organized mess, same with the home. If I get home and things are out of place I get all cranky for no reason and start cleaning\organizing. I´ve had days in which i use my lunch break to organized instead of eating!

I dislike when folks start moving my stuff around whether at home or at work. And hate with a passion whenever folks live things OUT OF PLACE. Why must you not put them back were you found them???

So there you have it, not sure if its a dislike post or a worst habit...

Aide ;)

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30 Days about me, Favorite store

My favorite store...I would choose the ones I like the most because if I start listing all the store I like this post would not have an end.

I love shopping at Old Navy for me, ¨the¨ best jeans ever, they just hug my curves!

Childrens place is the best spot for kids clothes, they are a bit pricey but those clothes could with stand my little Monsters (and that is a lot! trust me).

Kohls, what can I say I love everything in there! and Nike, love them sneakers...

There, my top favorites!

Aide ;)

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I´m going to include the obvious: My mom and sister (older from the 3 youngest ones I have, yeah I mean you Fani) they have inspired me in more ways than one.

My mom raised 4 kids as a single mother who has worked really hard at whatever job she has had to do to bring food to our table (decent jobs of course), from doing other´s laundry to selling toys off the side walk for Christmas. Whatever was needed. Today we are all grown folks, professionals in different areas, holding stady jobs or owing a business (my bother Mayo). We might not be ¨the¨best folks to deal with but we are honest ones who try to do some sort of good.

My sister she inspires me daily because everyday she has a different battle and she is brave enough to face it HEAD on instead of running and hiding (which is what I would do). She embraces her troubles and comes out victorious! (do not ask me the details, all I know is that the Lord is her guide).

Ok ready to move on to the friends:

My girls: Irene, Amber & Sylvia

We have been thru so much, we have cried together, laugh together (peed together, lol) been to places, mess with other people and so much more than I could reveal!

I thank you all for ALL you have done for me, ALL you have with stand with me AND for me, for ALL i thank you!

                    

Love you all!

Aide ;)

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Day 23, You tube Talk

I feel just like Emily from Nap time is My time i do not have a post for today.

I exclusively use You tube for music videos which i refuse paying got on Itunes and which i enjoy viewing every now and then. But i would not waste my time searching for things with little value to me...I would much rather search for interesting blogs or edit photos. Sorry folks but we are few in a bunch!

 

Aide ;)

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21 day about me...cooking

Okey, as I have stated before I hate cooking, dont like it not one bit.
Now that we have that clear, my mind is blanked the moment I try to think of a recipe. I´m gonna share my hubby´s rice and beans recipe called Gallo Pinto. This recipe is from Nicaragua and it´s very simple to make and really yummy.

It works best if you have white rice left over from the day before (meaning a day old). It has to be properly stored since its not supposed to have gone bad just last night rice would do. Grab a can of black beans, some onions, white cheese and a little bit of seasoning.

Stir fry the onions, add the beans and the seasoning just enough to give the beans some of your own flavor, pour some water in the can were the beans where, about half the can and pour it in the pan, after a few minutes, not too many minutes you dont want the mixture to dry up, add the rice and stirr until its all mix with the beans. Serve hot with some slices of cheese, yum!

Aide ;)

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Day 19 something I´m good at...

There is the obvious photography ( i dont claim being good at it, but i do claim loving it!). But besides that I´m good at story telling. I make up the craziest stories to my kids or any other kids that i know. My 8yr old loves stories and we had read all the books we had at home (age appropiate books, wink wink!) and i had a light buld moment and started to make up stories for her.

I told her about the most beautiful girl in the whole world who didnt like to eat (she is a picky eater) and her mom made her the most delicious food ever...but before she knew what mom had cooked she said ¨mommy i dont want to eat that!.¨ ¨Honey but you dont even know what I´m cooking, why dont you wait first and then say that you dont like it?¨the mom replied.
¨No I´m sure I wont like it! I´m very sure.¨ she said. ¨ Well you need to try it any way¨. When the girl tried to food she not only liked it she asks for seconds, uhm yummy. The mom told the girl that from that moment on she must first try things out before rejeting them. The girl agreed and she lived happily ever after... the end.

After this one I´ve made so many other ones always based on stuff that happens in our daily life, i still read to her but she likes my made up stories and whenever i´m really exhausted they save me from having to read...

Aide ;)

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ps: story protected by copyright laws, soon to be available in hardcover.

I´ve missed a few days in the 30 days...

Sorry I’ve been little off the blog for the past few days, but I’ve been with this cold that won’t go away! But I think I’m back J. So I’m going to try to keep myself in track, here we go:

1.     Something I’m OCD about…and it might sound tacky…but my girls have become costumed to us praying every night. I’ve told them that it keeps bad dreams away. So if I’m not home and they can’t pray they will wake up in the middle of the night and come find me to pray. If I’m not home to pray them I go to their bed and pray in their ears although they are sleeping (like snoring and completely out!), still pray. I’ve come to the point that I believe if they don’t pray they will have bad dreams and that by praying I’m keeping ¨bad¨ things\stuff\evil away from them…

2.     Well my mom…again it might sound tacky… but I do not go a single day without quoting the lady! I’m either quoting her or saying something she told me when I was younger and it worked\happened\understood later, and this is all the time. Also a supervisor a had (who passed away a few years ago) he helped me become the mature woman I’m today, he helped he understand that I needed to be responsible for my own actions and that those actions will always impact other folks (for good or bad). He thought me to be open and honest (like cruel honest) and to never give up (which my mom also did teach me)…may his soul rest in peace!

3.     Oh Brazil and Egypt…I would love to visit both because they are somewhat eccentric, exotic, unique and special. I’ve always had this love for Egypt (since my first Art class in high school, the one that I remember!) something about sand, pyramids, desert, scarfs and mystery that I just can’t stay away. And Brazil in two words: Samba and Carnival!

 

4.     My dream home…my kids would be running around and climbing like monkeys, my hubby lying in the couch playing video games, the dogs barking and me…well blogging! The rest is just that, the rest.

       5. The craziest thing I’ve ever done…well my bff and I went to Miami for Labor Day

           weekend a few years ago (before I met the hubby) and as some of you know Miami is a crazy city and Labor day is a crazy holiday… while at the beach I saw some girls top  less and I said ¨what that hell, I’m a big girl but I could also show boobies¨ and so I did! I took my top off and showed them off…

Aide ;)

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Favorite band\artist--Rock on!

I enjoy listening to all kinds of music (as long as they are not repeated over and over and over...) but I definetely have some favorites.

Music has always been a big part in our lives. I remember my grandmother dancing us around the house (we were too little to dance with her, if you know what i mean you should be laughing now...) We were always laughing and dancing.

We grow up to be good dancers (not strippers or anything, we just enjoy dancing all night long).  I like to dance with my kids, I want them to have the same fun my brothers and I when we were younger (the one we are having now whenever we get together and just dance!)

So here are the nominees:

1.  Aerosmith (rocking mode On)
2.  Boys 2 Men (for whenever I´m a romantic mood)
3.  Backstreet´s boys (I couldnt possibly leave them out, all time crush)
4.  Evanesence (for when my dark side comes out, and dont even day you dont have one, we all do)
5.  Don Omar (he is just plain sexy)
6.  Shakira (I want to be her when I grow up)
7.  SpongeBob (come on...you also know all his songs)
8.  The Big Time Rush guys (they are just cute and I like their songs, my 8yr old has a crush on them)

And the Winner is:

Lady Antebellum.

That´s all folks, please stay tune for the next year awards...just kidding, stay tune for 30  Days with Toni.

Aide ;)

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Photos of me...back in the days & now

I had a bit of trouble finding a picture of me from 10 years ago (my computer crash last week) :(, I know it sucks for me...a photographer computer less, how can I WORK!!!??? But thanks to Picasa web store (and thanks to my brother Luis, the one in the picture below who showed it to me) I was able to get this few pictures of me.

This is me about 8 years ago... I know what you are thinking: horrible hair dye. Go ahead be honest! I thought the same thing back then and I think the same thing now.Trust me when I tell you I changed it the next day (thank God for digital photography and after they snapped this picture I saw myself and uff, not pretty).

This is what I looked like last year in August...And I also know what you are thinking, ¨What a change¨ ¨Black definetely looks better on her¨ and ¨she looks hot¨. If you were thinking this then you are right in all the above statements (if you werent thinking this: then shame on you!.

This is me now (more or less). Again my mind is way ahead: I know I´m back to blond but this is a ¨good¨ kind of blond (I look hot now!, Not that I didnt back then...just saying for the records) But this is confident me...

I´m so glad to have done this years back picture thingy because it just shows me that I have been ¨me¨throughout the years, that I´ve fun in the process (regardless of the bumps in the road), that I´m some what of a Cameleon (seriously I transform) and that God has being there every step of the way...

Aide ;)

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Something that makes my life easier...

Where to begin?

My cellphone, I do not even want to imagine what I would do without it. At one point when I moved recently I didnt have one and I was about to go crazy! (No seriously, I was having withdrawals issues).

The Internet, just at the same time I didnt have a cellphone (and mind you I went 3 months without either, the cell or the internet) and needless to say: withdrawals... I know I have issues! (screaming from realizing how bad my issues are, first step in the recovery process).

A drivable vehicle. I had a recent accident from which I survived mostly because ¨He¨ is always watching over me (most importantly protecting me) and I had my seat belt on. Since then I dont have a car (or any method of transportation that I could drive, I have to ask folks to drive me around, and I dont like that!). I had a Nissan Quest that really made my life easier...Good days.

Having courage, to do things that I wish to accomplish like showing myself that I could do this 30 days thingy, that I could accomplish anything I want (like momma always tells me), that I will one day make my kids proud of me and that as long as I have God as my driver, he will make sure I make it to my final destination...

Aide ;)

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Something I hate....uhm

If I was a good and nice girl I would say that I dont hate anything or no one because everyone is a child of God and I shouldnt hate anything or no one... I have to say I dont personally hate anyone, I just happen to dislike some folks...

But I would be nice since this 30 days are about me and not people who from time to time piss me off.

I HATE (notice the capital letters) when people take it upon themselves to try my food...yeap and you know what I mean! Some folks just grap their fork, spoon or their nasty fingers and pick from your plate without permission...Hey you dont know if i was going to eat that and most importantly I dont know if you wash your hands today?

It is not cute, funny or anything else for you to pick on my plate...No its not! That is seriously my pet peeve...Other than that I´m pretty ok with most things...

Aide ;)

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Sex...uhm uhm uhm!

So as you all know I´m involved on this 30 days about me thingy and was determined to write only about me...well the sex subject is about ME. And on the Mrs. T Naturally blog there is a blog challenge in which she challenges her readers-bloggers to write about sex, and here I go!

As we all know us women before and after we get married are looked at wrong, funny, weird whenever we start talking about sex.

It doenst matter if we are married or not, if we are talking cleaninly about our marital sex life (without giving details) or not, either way we are looked at ¨funny¨. Even when we enter a department store to buy ¨lingiere¨ people (specially women) look at us as if we were buying that to use it with other people other than our husbands...like if we were whore´s, there I said it! Euff, that felt good.

Society and some churches (so says my hubby) has portrait sex as something prohibited and bad that we dont even want to call it sex. And lets face it and call things by their names: that is what it was before we got married (for those of us who had pre marital sex), after we got married (before the kiddies came along) and it should be good old sex after the kids, the wedding, the house, the bills...you get the point.

I remember reading and seeing pictures at how back in the days women couldnt even move during sex, they were covered from head to toe and there was a hole in the sheets right were they´re husband would penetrate and this made me so sad...women should not have to hold themselves back when it comes to sex (as long as they are doing it with their husbands and only with their husbands, that is), we should not be looked at funny when we buy sexy lingerie, body lotions, condoms, gels, vibrators, or anything else that we are going to exclusively enjoy with our husbands. There was a time in which even if a woman moved to much in bed she was a b...h, she couldnt try to do any different positions and-or even ask for her husband to bring her to climax before rolling over on this back. A time in whic misionary was probably the only position a house wife could try.



Back then only bad girls had fun, Now a days married women want to have fun!

Married is not just about how hectic our everyday lives are or precious our kids are (which they are) its also about some pleasures we get to enjoy (like sex and chocolates) which should be ok and we should not be ashamed of... if it was a sin to enjoy our bodies then God wouldnt have not given it to us (he doesnt do anything wrong).

Just like its our duty (not really its a pleasure) to be with our husbands and have sex (note: not make love, just sex) its also their pleasure to please us. And although props are not mandatory some pumps and a corset has never hurt anyone...

Good girl

Not so good girl





Aide ;)

Smile… is free! 

Ps: photos courtesy of Stirred, Straight Up, with a Twist.

Favorite picture

Well! :( just realized that I missed yesterday´s post (sorry was out and about with hubby, alone NO kids, and folks it had a been a reall long time since that) but I am back!

My favorite picture...is this one!

I took this picture of my brother and his wife when they were expecting my nephew Jacob. They are such a happy couple and they are so in love...I took this picture in a time in which i was going thru some rough spots in my life and they just gave me so much hope.

I look back at this picture and it brings me back so many sad memories that are quickly erase by the love that they reflect...just off a simple picture.

Aide ;)

Smile… is free! 

Favorite Quote

This one is also simple, short and sweet...¨ The worst thing that could happen is that you get No for an answer ¨... my mom, a very wise (like super doper wise) woman. She has always told me that if I have a question, a request, a problem that needs to be solve, or anything else that life might thow my way, not to hold it in and to ask because the The worst thing that could happen is that you get No for an answer...

Almost forgot, Live, Laugh, Love. I tattooed this one in my back.

Aide ;)

Smile… is free!

Favorite Book

I have to admit that the last few books have been bedtime stories. My kids have fallen in love with ¨Miss Giggle belly is coming for Tea¨. I make funny voices and they just roll on the floor from the laugh. Even my 8 yr old who typically does not like book to be repeated enjoys it! And they get under my skins and I can’t help but read whatever they want.

On a more grown up note I just finish reading an Elizabeth Hilts book ¨Manual for the perfect bitch at work¨, I know that you might be thinking and hope not to get judge but I’m tired of being walked over. You know what I mean, at every job or place or school, one is always lucky to find some woman who´s whole purpose in life is to f...k with you, they talk about you to your bosses, they want your position (not knowing how u got there), it’s like Kat Williams says ¨it’s something about you that just fucks with their system¨ and your job is to let them hate, but my philosophy is not to allow them to walk over me… Since I´m a supervisor I (or we supervisors) often have more crap to go thru. Luckily I now work with more men than women but the occasional B.I.T.C.H always comes along. And with all honestly I´m too old for that, God wouldn’t like for me to just sit and let her get her way.

I´m also reading the new Steve Harvey book because my doctor says that I need to be a little bit more detaching…you go figure!

Aide ;)

Smile… is free!

Favorite TV show

Well it might sound repetitive but an all time favorite would be Friends...dont care if they are re-runs or not they are all funny and they will always be funny (to me at least).

I also enjoy Criminal Minds; once a long long long time ago i wanted to be a Forensic Scientist and no one back then understood why i liked that (dont know why is not that weird!).

Another show that has also capture us (both hubby and I) is Lie to me and this show has actually messed us up big time. Now we look at people and their actions and movement when they talk to us to try to tell if they are lying or not!!!
I know we probably lost it! But hey at least we lost it together...

Aide ;)

Smile… is free!

Favorite song

I will make this post short and sweet, Lady Antebellum´s ´´I was here´´, it expresses how I wish to live the rest of my life...

Aide ;)

Smile… is free!

I hope someone reads this...

I was determined to save all my writing energy until tomorrow when I start the 30 Days Blogging thingy I have decided to join and since I dont feel so well I tought of just doing some blog stalking and see what its out ther while my almost 2 year old son jumps in my back because Blues Clues is not dun anymore...You go figure!
I came across a blog called  FibroTiger http://fibrotiger.blogspot.com/. This blog is about a woman who has a stepson who was diagnosed with a strange Syndrome and a daughter who is a bit behind in development while dealing with Fibromyalgia and having her husband away from them due to work and the economy.

Reading this womans blog just melted my heart and made me SEE the bigger picture. Everyday I say that I am thankful for all that God has given us and yet I still complaint, still whine, still get grouchy and bitch (if you may, in my husbands words) and yet I read her blog and she is not even complaining!

She is taking a ton of pills, she is in pain (agonizing pain) and she is NOT complaining! I hope that this gets around, that people from all ages and different parts of the world read it and stop at least a little the darn complaining...I know that I will at least minimize it...

Aide ;)

Smile… is free!

30 Days about me...

 

Today while blog stalking I found A daily dose of Toni @ http://juststopscreaming.com. And she is having some sort of blog thing where you get to blog about yourself for 30 days. No kid’s blogging, no husband blogging, no nothing...just yourself!

 

 

She is doing this along with other bloggers who want to join. I joined in! Hopefully I will get accepted.

 

 

I think this is a good way to not only allow your friends to get you know you a little better but also to focus on the great you that you are...the you that likes to cook but not because she has to feed some little ones, the one who likes to paint when it doesn’t involve that you need to clean up the crayon off the walls, the same person who likes to watch movies that do not involve princesses or pirates...the YOU.

So I’ve decided to focus a little on me (despite the fact that my hubby has come into the room 3 times while I’m writing this few words, to informed me that he is hungry, my 8 yr old claims that she already took a nap. Note I just asks her to lay down about 15 minutes ago, not to mention that I run 2 blogs, my facebook page, which is extremely important for me, work full time, mom of 3, and are currently learning how to manage a non for profit page!)

Despite all of that I will blog for 30 days about me. So join me, join us...let’s get ourselves back!

 

 

Aide ;) smile… is free!

Yeay for me!

Ok so I think my blog's are where I wanted them to be. I have spent 2 full days sitting in front of my computer, have not cooked, barely bathed and my 8 year old complains that "I type too much", that is kid talk for asking mommy to pay her some attention!

So this is it, I hope that you all like it (because if you don’t I am not changing it, seriously I am not!, Lol) I like it!

On another note I had about 3 subject I wanted to blog about but while remodeling the blogs forgot to write them down and I have completely forgotten what they were about....so...this is it!

Thanks for Reading! 

Aide ;), smiling is free!

that is how crap starts...

So i heard the other day a grown woman (she's in her late 30's, this is important because you will think she knows better :() ) who was proudly announcing that her 3yr old has a girlfriend.

Ok maybe i shouldnt be alarmed but common on! That is how crap starts.

Our Bibi came home one day saying that Jacob (that was a kid in her school) told her that she was his girlfriend (they were both around the same age, 3) and we stopped her right there.

A 3yr old has no business thinking (little less speaking) about boyfriends and girlfriends, they are only 3.

As a parent our job (well one of them) is to make sure they know that and what boundaries are (being having boyfriends at the age number 1 on the list).

Kids need to know early on that there will be a time for them to enjoy having a boyfriend (and they will hopefully enjoy IT, not that we as parents need to know any of it!!!!) and if she (well all of us) dont make that clear how are they going to know it. 

I have girls and a boy and i surely dont wish them to be influence by those views. Granted we never know what our kids will end up doing (and trust me after me work experience I pray EVERYDAY that they wait...) but also believe that we as parents need to do more than pray (which definetely helps), we need to be active in our kids life and stop worrying about what school my friends kids cousin is going, and how many ballet lessons she is taking, and how many shoes she has (because i think my child should have more than her) and start worrying more about our childrens heads (making sure that they dont have bats up there but actual fully working brain cells...)

Lord helps us all...specially me (my 2 little ones will give us a lot of work, they are only 3 and 2 but hey i could tell...)

mother's day...the old fashion way

To all my dear friends and family: hope you don't get offended over this.


But I have to say it!!!!


First of all I have to admit that i am a FB fanatic, I absolutely enjoy going online every second I get to see what is everyone up to. My hubby complains about it, i know i should not be on my blackberry while talking to him in bed searching in FB (there are far more important and exciting things to do while awake in bed!) but I'm a fanatic! What can I say.


Even fanatics think there is a stoping point. Since yesterday i've notice an increasingly number of folks updating their status to "well if you love your mom copy this on your status!" or "if you love your mom put a picture of you and your mom as your profile pic!"????


Ahhhhh, allow me to complain and say that aggravates me!


I'll explain.


While I do celebrate mother's day and love my mom dearly and most definetely expect a gift on that day (actually 2 since I'm hispanic and celebrate mother's day in both countries).. 
I think this is a way of bragging to all your friends and seeing who loves their mom the most. Most people appear to be racing to see who puts it first, its like who wishes you a happy birthday faster and who forgets to. Who forgets to put Happy mothers day on their status!

Now dont get me wrong, if your mom is really into FB:  she checks it often, updates it, perphaps has a BB and gets her messages, post away!

But if she is like the rest of the moms and doesnt keep up with technology then the best way to tell her that you LOVE her is the old way...via telephone...

Most parents (including my own) have a FB, which they do not even check in months. 

They dont know exactly how it works, dont have internet or the time to check it.

My mom has it keep up with old friends and not to be outdated. My dad has one, I really dont know why...but the things of it is that they are not going to see that you put i love you there or you put a picture of the two of you.

The only people that see it are your friends...and other people you have there who are not really your friends but you had to add them just because.


I think we should make this mother day a different one...we should celebrate it old style (like our moms did with their moms). Instead of posting on FB lets call our moms, tell them how much we love her and how thankful we are for all the things she has done for us. Whether they were good or bad, they helped shape you into the person you are today. 


Thank her for all the sleepless nights, the sacrifices she underwent to raise you, to feed you, to dress you, to put a roof over your head and to send you to school. For all the times she went to bed hungry because the money she had was only enough to buy you and your brothers food. The times she wore the rip clothes and the broken shoes because to her you needed clothes more than she did, even when you had plenty in the closet. The times she had to pick up extra jobs because Christmas was coming and she wanted to give you new clothes and toys which you later forgot about.


Ask her for forgiveness for all the times you were rude to her, the times you yelled at her and told her that you didnt asked to be born. The times you hanged up the phone or ignored her calls because she was "aggravating" you. Those times that you wished she would just leave you the F*%k alone because you thought you had enough. 


If after reading this you think I'm an idiot for thinking that you don't love your mom, ok think and post away.


But if you dont, I challenge you that next time you pick up your phone (iphone, bb,etc) instead of typing "I love my mom, my sister, my hubby, etc) go ahead look under "contacts" find that persons number and give them a call...I promise you they will love to hear your voice...


This mother's day let's make a difference by not posting anything in reference to mothers day in any networking site...lets do it the all way! It worked then it will work now...




Ciao ;)
Thanks for reading